When I started this blog a couple and a half years ago, I really wasn’t too sure about it. My mother always likes to remind me (mostly when I don’t want to hear it – but don’t tell her I said that), “When you started your blog you said you didn’t know anything about blogging or taking pictures, now look!” I remember her telling me then, “you will figure it out and you will catch on.” – Man, she’s always right. (Definitely don’t tell her I said that!). I have a point, I promise. More words after the jump....
It’s normal for us to doubt ourselves about our passions, the things we hold most dear, those things that are the closest to our purpose – but how far do we let that doubt seep in? Is giving into the doubt really worth giving up the potential reward? (No. That’s the answer – just in case you were wondering.)
When I started this blog a couple and a half years ago, I wasn’t too sure about it. My outfits weren’t good enough. My pictures weren’t good enough. When I started dancing/teaching, I wasn’t good enough. My choreography wasn’t good enough. And you know what? I was right! I was real life starting from the bottom. If you had just taken my first class – you would know. In really dissecting those feelings over the years, I found a funny thing. I was inflicting what I thought other’s expectations were on myself. So basically I was assuming what other people were expecting and then being disappointed when I couldn’t live up to that. It makes NOOOOOOOO sense, but I suspect I’m not alone in that.
Instead of giving into the doubt I pushed, and I do mean pushed, passed it. It was hard. It was a process – a process I’m still going through as a blogger and an artist – but I’ve learned that part of the reward is in the process of overcoming the challenge.
The challenge itself has taught me so much about myself, my goals, my work ethic, my ability, and so much else. I think sometimes we see the challenge, but fail to realize what’s in the challenge for us to learn. We get freaked out before the hard part, or think about what the goal is on the other side of it (which is not a bad thing) but we miss what happens in the middle by placing unfair expectations on the end project.
So here is my advice, that’s really someone else’s advice from my Instagram: "Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can." - Arthur Ashe. If your first project sucks – awesome. And if your second one sucks – awesome. And if the third one sucks a little less – double awesome! And if someone else thinks it’s not good enough – so what? It’s not their journey – it’s yours. You are only responsible for your own efforts – you are not responsible for how others perceive them. Be compassionate and sensitive to others and receptive to constructive criticism from people you trust– but if you let other people’s opinions and doubts get in the way of your purpose, that’s on you, and what a waste, huh? Let the process happen and be alert the whole way through.
Be relentless in the pursuit of your purpose. Otherwise you’re cheating yourself and the world that will benefit in the end. I definitely started from the bottom...now I'm, well, I'm not really sure where I am, but I'm excited to keep going.
A quick bit about the fit - I adore men's sweaters. They're great for balancing out something short and or tight. In this case, short...I loved that the quilted detail on the jacket sleeve matched that of the boots. And the hat adds some visual interest and pattern. Good stuff peeps.
So how do you get past the challenge stage of your work?
Jacket: Cliche' Mpls
Boots: Nine West
Jacket: Cliche' Mpls
Boots: Nine West
Something I wish I had seen when I started:
Ira Glass on Storytelling from David Shiyang Liu on Vimeo.