There comes a time/times in every man/woman/teen/young adult/babies life – when you have to look back and ask yourself – “what the heck have I been doing with my life??” For me, and for many of us, I think, the first time I legitimately thought that was when I turned 25. I’d been sailing through life – got through college, got a job that I kind of didn’t really like, was paying my bills and had just stared dancing – and one day I looked up and freaked out.
All my life I’d been making choices that I thought were correct because they didn’t rock the boat. They put me on the “right” path. I had a 9-5, I paid my bills, I was nice, I brushed my teeth, wore clean draws – for all intents and purposes, I was living a responsible life. And then, I had a revelation of sorts - revelate with me after the jump
I realized responsible decisions and safe decisions are not the same thing and should not be treated as such - i.e. a safe decision may not be the most responsible one you can make in the context of your current situation and/or goals, just as a responsible decision may not mean making a safe decision in the same context. Just because a life choice will keep you comfortable – it doesn’t mean it is the responsible thing to do.
Sometimes taking risks is actually the more responsible thing to do if said risks are at least a little bit calculated and will propel you toward your goals. Sometimes you have a responsibility to yourself and your dreams to take a route that may not be deemed responsible in someone elses’ eyes. Especially if you are an artist or a freelancer or entrepreneur – ya’ll know all most of our decisions and the ways we choose to spend our time look crazy to other people.
[The clothes: If you've been around TFF for a while, you know I have an epic love for bomber and baseball jackets. This one begged me to take it home. I also love quilted things so basically it's perfect. I tend to be a bit more low-key in my jacket choices, so this one being metallic took it a bit out of my comfort zone, which is part of the reason I bought it. It wasn't the safe choice. Pairing the bold metalic with all black helped it pop, and the details of the top and pants made them a good backdrop for the jacket and shoes, but not boring.]
In the same vein, safe decisions may be necessary for a season, particularly if you have others depending on you in the form of a spouse or parent or one of the aforementioned introspective babies. And that's OK. Though your time may not be now, it will be some day. Or you may find small ways to take risks. Even though you may not be able to do something grand - that doesn't make it any less important or vital to your journey.
So here’s my question to you: at this point in your life, in the context of your dreams (which you’ve hopefully begun to define in a tangible way) are you making the safe decisions that will keep you where you are, or are you being responsible to the call on your life and what you’re supposed to do in this world? Are those things one in the same right now or are you just telling yourself that because your scurrd (translation for those not versed in urban vernacular: frighted)?? Sound off in the comments below.
Jacket: 24 Hours via Cliche'
A big thanks to Eric P. for the photos!