|Adele painting with all the colors of the wind.|
If you haven’t heard this song by now, Adele’s triumphant return with, “Hello,” is exactly what we all thought it would be - fantastical with a dash of - “yassss girl, how do you know my life??” She is one of those artists who has an amazing talent to put everything you didn’t know you were thinking into song form and then sing the mess out of it so much so that you’re halfway shouting at the end even though it’s not even a Jesus type song.
The situation the song finds us in here is the conundrum of the unresolvable unresolve. In the song, Adele’s voice (which is clearly laced with equal parts molasses, water falls, and organic cherubim tears) laments about a relationship that went wrong and realizes that, no matter how much she calls admitting her mistakes, the other party has effectively ghosted - leaving her to sing in a field in the wind by herself- like we all do from time to time.
I have been in somewhat that position - when there’s a situation you think needs closure where the other party was unwilling to participate. It left me feeling all types of feels that I just had to hold onto while they went on about their business, not giving me a second thought. Sometimes life islike that. So, how do you finally get that person to see the error of their ways and finally talk about all the things and all the feels and understand your side? Well, you don’t. Apologies can be received or rejected. Realizing that is difficult, but I have learned that once I’ve done all I can do - said my sorry and proceeded with love, I have to let it go. It super sucks but it’s necessary.
It is also, most of the time, a process. As they say, “Time doesn’t heal all wounds. It’s what you do with the time that heals.” So use some time to forgive yourself, to give away some of the hurt and pain of the past, and refocus on the future. And, if you really need to, you go sing your feels in a field - because apparently that helps.
Thoughts? Leave ‘em down there.